Question: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two years, and our relationship has always been good. We are already talking about getting married. But a few days ago, when I was checking my girlfriend's phone, I accidentally learned that she also had a son, who was born when she was with her ex-boyfriend. My girlfriend said that she was young and impulsive at that time, and she gave birth to a child before she even got the certificate. She just held a wedding banquet and didn’t get the marriage certificate. Later, she found that the relationship was not compatible and they separated. The husband has always taken care of the son. She said it depends on you. Can you accept it?
To be honest, I couldn’t accept it when I first learned about it. I believe most boys can understand. I was happily preparing to marry my girlfriend, but then I found out that she still has As a son, I feel quite uncomfortable. Who knows whether her son will become a thorn in our marriage in the future? But to be honest, it's really hard to break up like this. After all, we have been together for two years. During these two years, we have always been very good and have no conflicts. What should I do now?
Is it acceptable for my girlfriend to have a son?
Answer: In fact, there is no standard answer to this question. It depends on your acceptance level. Because there is no way to change something that has happened. The only thing to blame is that you didn't get to know your girlfriend earlier. You have only two choices below:
If you choose to accept your girlfriend and her son, you may face something like this in the future: She will definitely miss her son emotionally, and if she has any material problems, The conditions will definitely help her son, and maybe you will need to comfort her because she is hurt because the relationship with her son has not been resolved well.
If you think these things are too troublesome and you can't accept them when you think about it, then it's best to break up now so as to hurt each other less. Also, you can ask yourself what do you like about your girlfriend? If you break up like this, will you regret it in the future?
If you want to accept her, you must accept everything about her. You must prepare yourself mentally and be prepared to face all unknown things. Or it would be good for both parties to talk about this issue. If you do this, if your girlfriend is a normal person and a person who repays kindness, she will definitely be particularly touched by your tolerance. She will completely trust you in the future and will only live with you wholeheartedly. Maybe you will have another son.
Here, I would also like to advise everyone that as long as the mother does not want her son, it is absolutely not advisable, so that both of them will feel happy. There are thorns. In short, everything depends on people. Since you asked this question, it means that you may not want to give up. Then talk to your girlfriend, face the difficulties together, and see if there is a better solution.
