Falling in love is very different from getting married. As long as you no longer love each other, you can break up at any time, and it will not involve too many property disputes. But marriage is different. It involves two families, and it cannot be divided easily. Therefore, even if many men find out that their wives have cheated, they still choose to forgive in the end. But I say I forgive, but I may not be able to get over this hurdle in my heart. What should I do if I find out that my wife cheated on her and I forgive her?
1. Reflect on your own problems
In fact, sometimes it is not accidental that the wife cheats, it may be Some husbands have their own problems and do not give enough care to their wives. For example, if you are away from home for ten days and a half, even if you are busy making money outside, you can always find time to make phone calls and chat! But some men sneer at this and think that as long as they work hard to make money to support their family, they don't know that a woman doesn't care how much money you make. What she wants is very simple, just for her husband to care about her in his spare time. If a man has this kind of thinking, it wouldn't be surprising if your wife cheated on you. Therefore, if your wife cheats on you, don’t rush to tell her whether you forgive her or not. First, reflect on whether there is anything wrong with what you did.
2. Look at your wife’s performance
First of all, no matter who you are, when your wife cheats on you, When problems arise, they actually feel uncomfortable and collapse. But if you have chosen to forgive, you need to first clarify whether your wife has truly repented and returned to the family. If so, then if you can tolerate, accept and choose to forgive, you can continue to live your life. You should have a good communication and sit down to talk!! At the same time, write a letter of guarantee, the kind protected by law. If you commit the crime again, no matter what, you also have the right to protect your marriage!!
And Since your wife cheated on you and you chose to forgive her, give her a chance to change her ways. If she feels guilty and blames herself for what she did and regrets it, ask her why she cheated on her. Find out the reason and see if it is because you usually ignore her. If you don't care about her enough, you should reflect on each other, find out the reasons, and find a suitable way for you to get along. If you still love each other, live a good life.
3. Give each other time
All emotional matters are your own business. After discovering that your wife has cheated, you actually It is my own hurdle that is the most difficult. There are only two kinds of hurdles, those that are passable and those that are difficult to pass. I can't advise you on this kind of thing. From an economic perspective, if divorce has a great impact on your children and yourself, then you can tolerate it. If you love your children enough, you can also tolerate it. If you still love her, have a good talk with her, tell her how you feel, and ask her to give you time and give herself time. If none of the above is a problem, then retaliate if you want to, and make peace if you want to divorce., after all, I loved.
After all, it is not a trivial matter for a wife to cheat on her, and it can easily lead to trust issues in the aftermath. In this regard, no one can advise you whether to forgive or not to forgive. I can only say that it depends on your own choice. Don't make a choice that will end up painful for both parties.
