Before getting married, some people focus on family background, some focus on talent, and some focus on looks. However, if you really want to get married and live a life, you must have a consistent three-dimensional outlook. If the three perspectives of a couple are not in harmony, life will become a disaster. Conflicts are prone to occur every time something happens. How can such a marriage be happy?
1. Incompatibility of personalities< /h2>
If a husband and wife have different personalities, how can they tolerate and understand each other? Personality differences often make it difficult or even impossible for husbands and wives to communicate.
When there are difficulties in communication, a lot of misunderstandings and estrangements will occur in the marriage. When these problems accumulate, they often lead to conflicts and disputes in the marriage, and incompatible personalities, which in turn lead to problems. A greater degree of contradiction.
2. Inconsistent mentality
Mentality is very important, but everyone has a different mentality. Some people will only think about how to solve things, while some people will only think about how to delay. When two different mentalities face the same thing, the difference in concepts formed is often huge.
Inconsistent mentality will not only affect the couple's attitude in handling things, but also affect the couple's mood when facing things, causing different feelings and emotions.
This can easily lead to the consequences of "stuck in the same bed, different dreams". This kind of life means that the husband and wife torture each other, are unwilling to compromise and cannot understand. Over time, it may also cause psychological problems.
3. Inconsistent life goals
If the life goals are not compatible, then never get married. One person is greedy for pleasure, and one person works hard. This kind of support marriage gives people the feeling that it is not a husband-wife relationship at all, but a slave relationship.
When one spouse emphasizes enjoying life in time, while the other emphasizes diligence and frugality, it is inevitable that they will have quarrels over small matters in the marriage, and they will be unable to mediate when encountering major issues.
Men and women with huge differences in their concepts of life goals are really not suitable for being a couple. If they continue to live together, they can only torture each other, unless one person is humble to the other person at all times. For the person who compromises, isn’t it a loss of self?
