It is inevitable for a couple to quarrel in the process of getting along. Some couples can talk about the problem face to face and solve it, but some couples are unwilling to talk about it and keep the problem in their own hearts, which eventually turns into a cold war. . Compared with quarreling, a cold war is very harmful to feelings. What should couples do when they have a quarrel and a cold war?
1. How to break the silence between husband and wife in a cold war
< p> Silence is the key factor that led to the Cold War, so if you want to end the Cold War, you must break the silence first. So what are the ways to break the silence in the Cold War?1. Use social software
p>If you like each other, but you can’t lose face and take the initiative to find your wife, you can send a message to Moments to express whether you still like her or can’t live without her. The song "It Must Be You" is It works. Or send a message about Space Aite. If she wants to relax, she will like and comment, and then you can start communicating happily.
Emoticons are also a good thing during the Cold War. If you use all kinds of cute emoticons, she will definitely not be able to help but reply to you.
2. Take advantage of weaknesses
A boy can tighten all the bottle caps at home, and she will naturally come to you. Even if the girl doesn't take the initiative to speak, you can naturally take the bottle in her hand and help her open it, it's that simple.
If your girlfriend or wife is a foodie, you can ask her "do you want a midnight snack" when she is very hungry, and then you can get along happily.
The easiest way is that everyone will go to the toilet in the morning. You just need to hide the toilet paper...she will definitely call you. By analogy, using each other's weaknesses to fight back is the most skillful solution.
3. How to be cute with words
Who said that being cute is a girl’s prerogative. Sometimes I will act cute when I make my girlfriend angry. Here is a template of how to act cute:
Dear, I'm sorry! I know I was wrong, woo hoo... I was so wrong. It's not your fault, but I lost my temper with you. It's right for your wife to be angry, but don't make your wife angry. My body, I didn’t mean it. I won’t dare to do it next time. I will write it down in my notebook and in my heart. I will never mess with my wife again!
Forgive me! Forgive me, wife, I love you so much. you,
I promise I won’t do it again next time. Give me a chance to make amends. From now on, you will be whatever you say. If you ask me to go east, I don’t dare to go west. If you ask me to drink water, I won’t eat snacks! Wife, let’s make peace. Right?
2. Methods to end the cold war between husband and wife
When both parties are no longer silent, what we will do next What we want to do is to end the Cold War and get back together, so what exactly should we do?
1. Bowing your head is also a kind of love.
Sometimes bowing your head is not necessarily the wrong side. As the saying goes, if you cultivate for a hundred years, you can cross the same boat, and if you cultivate for a thousand years, you can sleep on the same pillow. If you want this relationship to continue, someone has to bow first. And from a psychological point of view, as a man, the decision you make proactively is much better than the choice you passively accept. The other party will often show generosity and room for maneuver because of your bowing your head first, so that the cold war between husband and wife can be resolved as soon as possible.
2. Use silence to stop the cold war
When the cold war breaks out, you can also adopt the strategy of using softness to overcome hardness and using silence to stop, such as:
Silently clean up home, but don’t say a word;
When eating, you can cook an extra dish that he likes;
When the other person goes out, naturally hand him his coat and computer;< /p>
When the other person comes home, he will naturally take the things in his hands;
Or he will silently go to the kitchen to cook a bowl of noodles, make a cup of tea and put it on the table, but he will not Say this is for him, but the other person will naturally know that you are caring about him. Are you thirsty or hungry?
After creating this kind of atmosphere, the cold war will naturally end silently. ,
The secret of this technique is to stop with stillness.
During the whole process, you must have a calm mind and do not deliberately make the pots and pans make a lot of noise. I believe his heart will easily be melted by your tenderness.
Sometimes, "strategic silence" is a very useful weapon.
3. Methods to avoid the recurrence of the Cold War
Of course, it is still recommended that the two sides communicate well after the Cold War is over. to avoid something like this happening again.
But the best time for this communication is one day later or within seven days. Because no matter what the reason for the quarrel is, the emotions in the first hour after the quarrel will not dissipate, not to mention that the Cold War has just ended. Communicating at this time will only make both parties angrier. Although, Because if there is no new trigger one hour after you take the initiative to end the cold war, it will slowly calm down, but just because it is calm at this time does not mean that your negative energy has dissipated.
After three hours, the emotion will slowly dissipate, and it will gradually decrease every hour. At this time, the person's psychological defense mechanism is still in working condition, which means that you will not See your own problem. Your true self, I am still protecting your self, and will only feel bad about the other person. Until 24 hours later, or after sleep, the defense mechanism in your heart gradually shuts down and you start to look at yourself, so now you understand why Every time you break up you regret it the next day.
Many people only want to make amends after they have emotional problems.They just want to save their love, but at this time, they often act very anxious, all because of guilt and apology. If they act too intensely, they will make many wrong actions. Therefore, after breaking up, don’t be anxious first. To recover, at this time, you should reflect on yourself and see why you broke up and where the problem of the breakup lies. After solving these most fundamental problems, it is not too late to recover. If you have not figured out the problem, you will get back together. In the future, the same problem will still occur, and there is a reason why the other half broke up. It is not her own fault. At this time, you also need to change yourself, so that your other half can come back to you.
Boys must not be too controlling, give her appropriate space to play, and give yourself a chance to relax. Only in this way can love remain fresh at all times. These are common mistakes that most boys make in love. Many loves that instinctively continue end because of boys' emotional sensibility. Men should be free and masculine. Love is a book. During reading, you will encounter many problems of different sizes. As long as we find the root of the problems and solve them one by one, we can definitely restore a gradually lost love. Recovery is like a box of chocolates, you never know what flavor you will get next, but as long as you persist, maybe there will be a bright future at the next intersection.