I don’t know how many people enter the palace of marriage with the longing for love and marriage, but then they find that married life is just that, facing the same person under the same roof every day, Doing the same thing, each other is gradually consumed by life. With the appearance of marriage as a partner, they gradually become inseparable.
1. Being together but having nothing to say
After many couples have been married for many years, they no longer have love and expectations for their other half. But in order not to delay their children, the two made do with living together. But both of them knew in their hearts that they were just tenants living under the same roof, living together and acting together for their children. The two of them are like most tenants, even though they live under the same roof, they never see each other when they look up. But usually I try to avoid them whenever I can, not wanting to meet or say hello, because the two of them really have nothing to say, and meeting each other is awkward.
2. Different dreams in the same bed
If there are couples who live under the same roof but have nothing to say, It's sad enough and helpless enough to be separated from each other in appearance and spirit. Then sleeping in the same bed and having different dreams is even more cruel and heartbreaking. Although that person was still lying next to her, she knew clearly that he no longer loved her and his heart was no longer with her. Although the two sleep in the same bed, their hearts are getting farther and farther apart. You don’t know what he’s thinking, and he doesn’t care at all what you’ve been through. It’s obvious that the two of you can reach out and touch each other, but their hearts feel like they’re thousands of miles apart.
3. Frequently complain about each other
Among couples whose marriages are on the verge of a red flag, one thing is particularly obvious: They will especially care about trivial things. If you spend a little more money, you will be in trouble if you come back a little late. Next time if we have another quarrel, we will air out the old accounts, which is not lenient at all. What is important in married life is to put yourself in someone else's shoes, understand each other, and be considerate of each other. To love someone is to put yourself in the other person's shoes, rather than just thinking about your own interests and only caring about your own gains and losses. When two people only complain about each other, love changes.
4. No conjugal life
Conjugal life is the lubricant of marital passion. As the saying goes, when couples quarrel, they quarrel at the head of the bed and make peace at the end of the bed. But if two people refuse to live as a couple, the degree of intimacy will decline. Over time, there is not much pride left. And after the quarrel, there is no thought of reconciliation, and the relationship between the two will only get worse.
If you still can’t lose your marriage, don’t think of it as a partnership, otherwise your marriage will Very painful. And once you pick upWith this kind of thinking, the relationship between you will become cold, because you are working day and night to maintain family relationships, which is completely unnecessary.
