It is said that cheating can be divided into mental cheating and physical cheating. So in your opinion, is spiritual cheating considered betrayal? Today I will share my own views on this topic. Let’s take a look.
Written definition of mental infidelity:
It occurs with a third party while already having a partner. An intimate relationship that does not involve sex, but is very emotionally intimate, in which many emotional benefits are obtained, and even affects the intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance of the original relationship with the partner.
This is mental infidelity!!!
Why does mental infidelity happen?
Potential factors of mental infidelity:
I remember I watched a TV series last year about a middle-aged couple who encountered a marital crisis. The wife confessed that she had cheated on her, and the husband chose to divorce. When the two had a showdown, the heroine said: "It's not as dirty as you think. I admit that I cheated, but it was just a mental cheat. I am already thirty-eight years old and no longer young. I'm afraid, I don't want you to go to a movie with me, and have to endure your mumbling, I don't want you to go to a shopping mall with me, and have to endure your sarcastic words; I'm afraid that this is it, let this kind of life happen. Until my hair turns white, I want to live a life of flavor and flesh and blood..."
This resonates strongly with many people who are disappointed in their married life: it is because the other party does not recognize themselves. , you need to be affirmed and appreciated, or you are suppressed and bullied by the other party, you want to be respected or not understood, you want to get a proper explanation, or your life is too static and you want a fresh feeling.
Physical and mental infidelity
For most people, mental infidelity is a kind of real-life infidelity. Self-compensation for the missing part, because you can't get what you want from your partner, so you need to get it from other relationships.
American psychologist Shirley Glass once mentioned: The worst betrayal often does not require any physical contact, because it means the spiritual lack and loneliness of the person involved.
Some people will take the initiative to obtain more mental pleasure when they are satisfied with the current situation. It is like that physical cheating is because they are not full and they still feel hungry, while spiritual cheating is because they are full and want to feel better. To eat something else is to be greedy.
We actually give many definitions to marriage, and naturally believe that sex, love, and marriage must be a combination of the three. This directly leads to many people having high expectations and demands for their partners that exceed reality, and even makes some people dare not get married, feeling that human nature cannot withstand the test.
In this case, we might as well look at mental infidelity objectively, admit its existence from the perspective of human instinct, and then understand andGrooming, self-restraint and other methods can reduce the probability of its occurrence.
What should you do in the face of mental infidelity?
Choose divorce or break up? This is just a matter of termination and relationship with the other party to cover up or avoid the problem.
But choosing to forgive is like a thorn in the heart; choosing to turn a blind eye or turn a blind eye is due to one's own lack of confidence in rebuilding an intimate relationship.
You don’t have to avoid dealing with emotions
When you find out that the other person is mentally cheating, break up impulsively or get divorced, it may seem like you are acting decisively, but if you just choose to escape instead of dealing with it head-on, you may It leaves regrets and may also leave a shadow.
Choosing to deal with it head-on, whether it is to ask the other party to maintain their loyalty in the future, or to threaten the other party to divorce and break up, may produce more lies and excuses. We can adopt a method of neither alienating nor blaming, and continue to Communicate and talk with each other.
This is indeed difficult, but this is what we can do to repair the relationship.
Cheating cannot solve the relationship problems between two people
Some people consider that after the physical cheating is exposed, the losses and costs far outweigh the benefits, so they will be wary and just stay there. spiritual level.
In my many consultation cases, I found that when most people talk about the reasons for cheating, they tend to blame their partner’s shortcomings, talk about the harm they have suffered, and feel that the problem cannot be changed, so they use cheating to find compensation. This is actually a very poor transfer.
What should be tangled up is not whether your partner will cheat, or whether each of you allows the other to cheat mentally, but whether you can detect your disappointment with the current situation in the relationship, and whether you are already out of step. situation. You need to explore within yourself and make timely adjustments, instead of relying on temporary happiness obtained secretly, thinking that it can offset the quibbles in your current relationship.
Repair the relationship
A good partnership is not just about avoiding the impact of the outside world and not being disturbed by each other; it is about being able to heal after being injured even if there are impacts from the outside world. We achieve better growth and become stronger.
