It is certainly a good thing to find a girlfriend, but boys all want to find a virtuous wife who can be diligent and thrifty, and only two people can build a good family. But if you meet a girlfriend who spends money lavishly and doesn't care about the money bag, you may have a headache. If you are troubled by this matter, let’s take a look at the following analysis: What should I do if my girlfriend spends too much money and can’t support her and wants to break up?
1. Correct attitude towards spending money in love
During the relationship, your girlfriend is looking for a boyfriend, not an ATM machine. Of course, if you voluntarily become an ATM machine, you are in love. The position in the process is just wrong. An incorrect start, if not corrected in time, often leads to a bad ending.
You can tell your girlfriend directly how much money you have per month and how much you are willing to spend on her. If she can't accept it, , you should really break up as soon as possible, otherwise she will give up on you as soon as she meets someone richer in the future. Because in his heart, money is far more important than you. Of course, if you are rich, or you expect that you will be richer than anyone she meets in the future and can always satisfy him, then you can continue and just don't complain.
Love is mutual giving. Once one party gives too much, even if the other party is willing at the moment, they will have complaints and feel chilled over time, and there is no one to express your complaints and chills. I know whether you are being arrogant or complaining about yourself. Improper expression will make the other person feel that you are very annoying, and even make the other person feel that if I have the financial ability or have a better partner, I will be the third person. Dump you for a while. (This is one kind of situation, and there is another kind of selfless dedication, which can easily cause the other party to feel pressure and want to break up, but this situation will not be discussed here.)
She may not be able to remember you in the future. It's good, but I just think about it. If you spend a little money, you will be forced to do nothing. There is no pleasant feeling between two people.
If she wants something, she will pay for it herself, no matter how expensive it is, you have no control over it. But knowing that you have no money, he insists on letting you buy expensive things, which is his fault. A stable relationship should be happy and mutually reinforcing.
2. Learn to guide her correctly
If two people have different attitudes towards spending money, then in the future, There will be endless conflicts at the same time, so try to reach a consensus. You can only guide her, but you need to pay attention to several aspects during the guidance process:
1. Don’t evaluate her consumption views , maybe she can spend it like this without you, because her family has money. Just because she has you, she treats you like a parent. Her original intention is not vanity, but this is the way she has viewed consumption since she was a child. Even if she is just vain and squeezing you, if you just scold the other person and ask them to change their consumption habits, it is impossible for the other party to listen. On the contrary, they will think that you are not good enough and come over to educate me.
2. You should ask your girlfriend, do you like me? , usually when you ask this question, your girlfriend will also think about it. If she says she doesn't love her, then why are you still doing it together? Is it for selfless dedication to raise a girlfriend for someone else? If she says she loves you, then you should sincerely tell her about your situation. How much money do you have every month now? Everyone is still studying. You want to focus on college studies and socializing first. , so now I can only spend money for her within my ability. I am willing to give her 70 or something like 100 yuan. After I graduate and start working, I will definitely compensate her well when I start making money. Boys here must not show off. Many boys insist on helping the other person pay back the debt. As a result, the other person thinks that your financial ability is not bad, so they rely on you. Later, the boys will curse and say that the girl only cares about money and has no sense of propriety.
