Two people who love each other join hands and enter the palace of marriage. The passion and romance will eventually become mediocre. No matter how much we love each other, life is always full of feathers. The love between the prince and the princess is just a romantic fairy tale. Real life cannot be separated from firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Sanmao once wrote in "The Story of Sahara":
"If love is not implemented, When it comes to dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will win the day forever."
How can couples get along to achieve the highest happiness index? The best way to get along in marriage: You don't ask me, I don't interfere with you, the two of you live as if you are not married. Both parties still maintain their own lives, work, dreams, friend circles, and hobbies. Respect each other, understand each other, trust each other, and be loyal to each other. This is the best way to get along in marriage.
In other words, the ideal marriage model is: not how much you have changed for me, but how well you adapt to each other. You are still the same, I am still the same. A good marriage is not about how much each other has changed, but how well they adapt to each other.
In married life, if you always want to change the other person, or accommodate the other person ignorantly and unprincipled, such a lifestyle may be acceptable in a short period of time, but if you maintain this pattern for a long time, The lifestyle is to completely transform a person with personality A into a person with personality B. This goes against the laws of human growth and development and is not advisable.
It's okay to change yourself to a certain extent to adapt to the other person, but changing yourself beyond recognition to adapt to the other person will be very tiring, and without a long-term solution, you will be very tired.
This kind of married life will make you feel that you have no self in your life. Maybe you will enjoy it at first, but over time, such a married life will make your life miserable.
It takes less than a day to freeze three feet. It is impossible for people to completely break away from their previous way of life. After all, your circle of friends, interests, hobbies, dreams, and lifestyle are all cultivated over a long period of time and cannot be achieved overnight.
Everyone has their own interests and hobbies. You can develop your own interests and hobbies with each other.
As the saying goes: It is easy to change a country but difficult to change, and it is impossible for people to completely break away from the past growth track. It's immediately like forcing a person who doesn't like seafood to eat fish and shrimp every day. Maybe he can endure it for a day, a week, a month, but that's it for 365 days. By then he will definitely be like a volcano hidden underground. One day it will explode.
True love and marriage are about mutual adaptation, rather than unilateral willingness to change each other. If a person changes and loses himself, she is not her, and you are not you, then this relationship cannot last long. Cater in a short timeIt's possible for the other party, but it's impossible in the long term.
After a long time, both parties in the relationship will be very tired, and he/she will want to escape. Because this love is too heavy, it is obtained at the cost of losing yourself.
Mutual respect, mutual understanding, mutual trust, and mutual loyalty. This is the best way to get along in marriage. No matter how close the couple is, such as his love history before marriage, he can listen to whatever he wants to say, and he is allowed to keep his own little secrets if he doesn't want to tell them.
Everyone has some little secrets in their heart. There is no need to break the casserole and get to the bottom of it. Sometimes keeping a certain distance from each other can create a sense of beauty, which in turn will promote the relationship between both parties.
Sangyu has a beautiful evening scene today, praying for a hundred years of love.
The best marriage model is: you are my partner and I am your partner. The two are each other's partners and warm each other's hearts. Two people in love understand each other, respect each other, trust each other, and be loyal to each other.
Happy marriages are all similar, and every unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own way. As long as you work sincerely and patiently, you will surely reap a beautiful and enviable marriage.
